"How can a mother be frustrated her child is not as she longs him to be, when she herself is not as she longs to be?" - taken from Ann Voskamp's post, "What Every Family Really Needs to Be Strong"
"When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger." Ephesians 4:29 (NCV)
Lately, my words to my children have been anything but edifying. Actually they've been downright harmful...to their souls.
And after such harsh words leave my mouth, I immediately begin thinking, "where did that come from?"
But I know where they come from. As Ann says in her post, "angry words come from an anger-riddled heart."
"Lord Jesus, I don't want an anger-riddled heart," I cry out to Him, plead with Him. "Lord, remove the 'soul-dross.'"
I do become frustrated when my children are not as I long for them to be. And the frustration so often leads to angry words...frustrated words...words that tear down, rather than build up. And then I realize, as Ann points out, that I am not as I long to be, either. And I cry out to Him for mercy and grace. So very thankful when He pours it out on me, like a fragrant oil, soothing me, healing me.
Lord, when I speak, help me to not say harmful things, but to say what people (my children) need -- words that will help them become stronger.
Ann's post was so convicting to me and yet at the same time, just what I needed to hear today. Here is a link to her post if you would like to read it. http://www.incourage.me/2010/04/what-every-family-really-needs-to-be-strong.html